Two daughters? Planning for a son? Your family will be complete and prefect only after you have a son! Really?
I started to hear this from the time my sister was born and lot more after I had my daughters. Actually I was lucky my parents were never sad or worried about having us two and my father was really always proud to say that he has two daughters. And he tried his best to make us independent and self confident. That's the main reason he encouraged me to take a driving license when I was 18. And never said no to things he believed I can do.
Questions we usually hear, Who will take care of you when you get old? Girls will leave you after there marriage and can't be with you. It's really a burden to have daughters, financially and mentally.
If the first born is a boy then everyone is relived, and the second child is not at all a must. If it's a girl everyone will start asking for second baby and prayers and advice's. Once a person told me its because we are two girls in my family i also had two girls ,actually i was laughing inside thinking what a dumb thinking it is.
Other reason people say to have a son that he needs to carry the family name,yes the name that follows his name, his wife's, children.... I remember someone asking my father ohh so your family name ends by you. Seriously? If so, what about my kids and my sister's children? Don't have my family DNA; do they only have their fathers' DNA?
Girls will leave you after there marriage and can't be with you...When a girl getting married she is not going anywhere, she is going to start a new life but not leaving behind the place she born,grew up, played, slept...I felt so close to my parents after I left home for studies . Of course I loved them before also but after I left home only I know what I was getting there.
Are daughters a burden to the family? "Daughters are more of a financial liability". Not only do you have to educate her, you also have to save up for her marriage and perhaps for other occasions in her life. It's a stupid and not desired thing. But since our society considers it a matter of great family honour that a daughter is married with pomp and show even at the cost of the parent's life savings, giving and taking dowry are still an inherent part of a marriage. Is a woman some toy or business thing to deal with money and gifts? It’s like we’re being transferred from one house to the next, from one caretaker to the next, from one owner to the next.
I remember a father telling his son, "Dear start saving money because you having three daughters?" Ohh God,are we living in 21st century. According to me, if girls get education instead of dowry they can make their future bright. Dowry will run out in some days but education never get over.
Girls are an additional responsibility. With the high incidence of rape and sexual assault in this country, there is an additional responsibility of protection of the girl child. Yes it is, that we need to teach our children both girls and boys the value of respect, gender equality and social values.
I found a very good thing in European culture that here people is not concerned about gender of there children. They only want their kids independent, happy and healthy . Here no one asked me 'ohh two daughters', instead they only said 'aww you are so lucky to be mother of this two beautiful girls'.
And am so proud and happy to be mother of my girls, with them I can play, talk like a friend, dress up like dolls, teach them like a mom, cook with them lot more....i want my daughters to become more confident about themselves. They need to learn to handle problems on their own, learn to manage the hurdles that come along. They need to make decisions on the go, learn to take care of herself.
Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a blessed new year!
I started to hear this from the time my sister was born and lot more after I had my daughters. Actually I was lucky my parents were never sad or worried about having us two and my father was really always proud to say that he has two daughters. And he tried his best to make us independent and self confident. That's the main reason he encouraged me to take a driving license when I was 18. And never said no to things he believed I can do.
Questions we usually hear, Who will take care of you when you get old? Girls will leave you after there marriage and can't be with you. It's really a burden to have daughters, financially and mentally.
If the first born is a boy then everyone is relived, and the second child is not at all a must. If it's a girl everyone will start asking for second baby and prayers and advice's. Once a person told me its because we are two girls in my family i also had two girls ,actually i was laughing inside thinking what a dumb thinking it is.
Other reason people say to have a son that he needs to carry the family name,yes the name that follows his name, his wife's, children.... I remember someone asking my father ohh so your family name ends by you. Seriously? If so, what about my kids and my sister's children? Don't have my family DNA; do they only have their fathers' DNA?
Girls will leave you after there marriage and can't be with you...When a girl getting married she is not going anywhere, she is going to start a new life but not leaving behind the place she born,grew up, played, slept...I felt so close to my parents after I left home for studies . Of course I loved them before also but after I left home only I know what I was getting there.
Are daughters a burden to the family? "Daughters are more of a financial liability". Not only do you have to educate her, you also have to save up for her marriage and perhaps for other occasions in her life. It's a stupid and not desired thing. But since our society considers it a matter of great family honour that a daughter is married with pomp and show even at the cost of the parent's life savings, giving and taking dowry are still an inherent part of a marriage. Is a woman some toy or business thing to deal with money and gifts? It’s like we’re being transferred from one house to the next, from one caretaker to the next, from one owner to the next.
I remember a father telling his son, "Dear start saving money because you having three daughters?" Ohh God,are we living in 21st century. According to me, if girls get education instead of dowry they can make their future bright. Dowry will run out in some days but education never get over.
Girls are an additional responsibility. With the high incidence of rape and sexual assault in this country, there is an additional responsibility of protection of the girl child. Yes it is, that we need to teach our children both girls and boys the value of respect, gender equality and social values.
I found a very good thing in European culture that here people is not concerned about gender of there children. They only want their kids independent, happy and healthy . Here no one asked me 'ohh two daughters', instead they only said 'aww you are so lucky to be mother of this two beautiful girls'.
And am so proud and happy to be mother of my girls, with them I can play, talk like a friend, dress up like dolls, teach them like a mom, cook with them lot more....i want my daughters to become more confident about themselves. They need to learn to handle problems on their own, learn to manage the hurdles that come along. They need to make decisions on the go, learn to take care of herself.
Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a blessed new year!